The Maybe Trap: Vague Destruction
Mission Objective
Identify the specific failure patterns in vague invitations and recognize why they generate weak responses.
Vague invites breed vague answers — and drain attraction.
The pattern
- You: "We should do something this weekend."
- Her: "Yeah, maybe."
- You: "What do you feel like doing?"
- Result: Nothing happens; momentum dies.
Why it fails
- Indecision: Leaders propose plans, not suggestions.
- Cognitive load: You shift the planning burden to her.
- Low signal: High-value people run structured lives.
- Avoidance: "Maybe" is often a polite no.
Core truth: Spark comes from conversation; commitment comes from leadership.
Field Instructions
- Do this now: Rewrite one vague invite into SPEC format.
- Evidence to log: Original line → SPEC rewrite.
- Time box: 5 minutes.