Stop adding punishment to the hurt
Reduce new damage without performing warmth or forgiveness.
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Resentment Reset & Recommitment
Staying is not the same as recommitting. Punishment can keep a marriage occupied while repair remains absent.
Stop hurt leaking out as punishment, rebuild ordinary contact, and see whether active recommitment is possible.
Safety comes firstIf honesty or refusal could bring fear, threats, or coercion, leave this tool.1 2 3
A paced pathway
Take the next step. Leave the rest for later.
Nobody has to perform warmth or forgiveness. Fear, control, or retaliation takes you out of the ordinary pathway.
- Time
- 30 days
- You leave with
- A 30-day reset and a clearer decision
This device remembers where you stopped and the answers you picked so you can return. Anything you type into the final plan is not saved.
See what the pathway covers
Make ordinary contact possible again
Begin below romance, with contact that neither person has to perform.
Look again and decide
See whether active recommitment is becoming possible.