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3–5 minutesIncludes a safety check

What’s Happening Here?

Something is wrong, but every label feels either too dramatic or too vague.

Pick the line that comes closest to your situation. You do not need to know exactly what to call it.

Safety comes firstIf honesty or refusal could bring fear, threats, or coercion, leave this tool.

Private check

Take this one question at a time.

Answer from your side of the situation. You will get one useful direction, not a verdict on your partner.

Time
3–5 minutes
You leave with
The first issue worth addressing

Answers exist only while this check is open. Leaving this page, reloading it, or restarting clears them.